What makes a good man? What special characteristics does a good man possess? Where can we find a good man? These are questions that many of us find ourselves asking. But little we know that the answer lies in the life and work of the Holy Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) who was mercy personified, an exemplar and a model for all mankind.
His Companions, too, followed his percepts and practice in letter and spirit. They too were known for their compassion, humility and, above all, impeccable integrity and honesty, the hallmark of a good human being. All we need to do is to read their lives and make every possible effort with all sincerity to emulate them in our day to day life. Introspection and self-reform should be our guiding principles, and that alone will enable us to regain our lost glory.
If we only take the time to get to know these great men, we would find that they were the best of men and by following in their footsteps we can change our world into a better place to live in.
A good man has integrity: Integrity is one of the most important characteristics that a good man can possess. A man with integrity will stay true to his word and true to himself. If he tells you that he is going to do something, he will follow through and do what he has said. You can count on him to always be there for you and defend you as a friend. He does not pretend to be something that he is not and he knows who he is and who he wants to be. A man with integrity will have strong values and he will stick to those values no matter what the cost.
You can tell if a man has integrity by the way he treats himself and others. If he is kind to himself and to others and is always looking for ways to help people and be kind, then he has integrity. These good men are highly respected and in return they give their respect to others. They may require you to be worthy of respect before they offer it to you because of their high moral compass, they want others to share their values. Often these men show great courage because at times they are required to stand up for their beliefs at all times.
A good man is honest: Honesty is a great quality that everyone is looking for in a person but is often times hard to find. A good man will tell you the truth and not just what he thinks you want to hear. A man with honesty will not make up stories or make promises that he never intends to keep just to look good but will tell you honestly what he will do and how he feels. Sometimes honesty can be hard to deal with because it is not what we want to hear but it is better to have a good man who is truthful then one who will fill you with lies.
You will be easily able to tell if a man is honest if he does not lie to you. A good man will not need to be secretive and hide things from you but will tell the truth and be almost an open book. A man with honesty will be faithful in his relationships. He will be genuine and you will not need to guess about what he is thinking or feeling. Honesty is a great attribute for a good man to have.
A good man is self-confident: A good man will be confident in himself and who he is. This is an important characteristic in a good man because when they are self-confident, they are less likely to change who they are and to stay true to themselves. A man with self-confidence will not be deterred from what he believes to be true and will not be easily pressured into doing things that he does not believe in. Self-confidence makes a man happy and fun to be around because he will not be constantly questioning himself or others around him.
You will know if a man has self-confidence by how he sees himself because he will have a distinctive set of goals that he has set for himself. He will believe that he is worthy of good things and he will set out to find them. This self-confidence will show through because he will not second-guess himself and when he makes decisions he will more likely to stick to the decision that he made. Self-confident men are good to be around because they are strong and protective and are able to take of not just themselves but those around them.
Source: the writings of Colleen Crawford